Victim or Victor?

Life is full of choices. We have been given free will which is fantastic. It gives us the freedom to choose what we feel is best for us, or at least what is "safe" for us. We make 100's of choices everyday. What we'll eat, what time we'll go to bed, what we watch on tv, whether or not we exercise, who we spend time with, where we work, where we fellowship, whether we want cream in our coffee, and the list goes on and on. It's really great if you think about it. We could all be a bunch of robots doing, thinking and acting the same. How awful would that be?

Will all that freedom, comes making mistakes. We make poor choices, we fail, and sometimes we flat out do what we know we shouldn't because it sounds good at the time for whatever reason. I know, I've been there and done that.

One day we wake up and our life seems like a train wreck. We look in the mirror and don't like what we see or who we see. Maybe it's a divorce, a job loss, a loss of health or maybe you're just sick & tired of your life. Many times, it takes a great loss to wake us up. Then what? We can fall prey to the victim mentality, become a martyr which is best friends with victim, or we can trust that what God says is true. We can look at our crappy (excuse my language) circumstances or self and make a decision to take the ashes and turn them into something beautiful. Isn't that what we want? Of course it is. So why do so many of us get stuck and unable to break free?

I don't have all the answers, but God does. This is just what I have learned to be true. When you experience something traumatic in life, friends and family come around to "help" you. We all need that, but sometimes when it becomes the only topic of discussion and we don't have the "right" kind of support, we can become stuck. It  becomes a scab that is almost healed and ripped off over and over again. When that happens a victim mindset and self-pity begin to take over. "Poor me," "I can't," "I would if I could," "If only," and blah blah blah, excuse after excuse and voila, you are stuck. Poverty sets in, often financial, spiritual, and mental. By this point your identity is rooted in your problem and not God. The cycle continues and you go around and around the same mountain getting the same results or worse.

I encourage you to choose the narrow path. The path of hard work, the path of trusting God for His provision as you step up and step out, the path of getting out of your comfort zone, the path your haven't traveled before, the path of breaking free and experiencing lasting transformation.

You're Worth It

With Love,

Heather Silva

Heather Silva Health & Wellness Coach



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