I don't know about you, but I struggle with negative thoughts and negative people. For a long time, it seemed like all I could think about was gloom and doom. I kept hearing about renewing your mind and the battle being in our mind but honestly I was so oppressed I couldn't understand it. I would hear people say to speak positively and good things will start to happen. For me, I thought that would be fake. If you ask me how my day is and it's bad, I'll tell you. I thought all that positive thinking and speaking was nonsense for a long time. Guess what I discovered? I was wrong in my thinking. What a revelation that was. But how would I climb out of the negativity pit I was in? I was also married to a very negative person. So how did I do it?
It's an ongoing process. The areas I get hit with have changed and continue to do so but I think it's a life-long battle. We just need to keep upgrading our weapons as we win and move forward. One of my favorite weapons is my bible.
When the battle was really difficult, I didn't like myself. It was a deep-seated root that I needed to pull out. Spend some time listening to what you say to yourself, how you talk about yourself and take notes. Would you say those things to or about a close friend? If you're hard on yourself, chances are you have dislike for you. Your #1 priority is to turn that around. Once you love yourself, it's much easier to overcome the other areas. Take every negative thought or word about you and turn it into a positive one. Write down 3 things you love about yourself every day and say them out loud.
Think about what you're thinking about. Sometimes, I'll catch myself in some terrible movie in my head and I'll stop and ask myself, " Where did that come from?" It was clearly not a thought I would normally think, so I say bye-bye. In the past, I would have entertained it, let it grow, believed it and felt even more hopeless and helpless.
When you catch negative thoughts tell them you disagree and get into a positive one. You can pull from your what you love about yourself list. When you find yourself agreeing with a negative word someone said about you, disagree. If it's something you know to be true, you might say something like this to youself;"While that may be true, I'm a working to change that area and I will love and nourish myself through the process."
These are a few things you can do to win the battle and live a healthy happy life. Try them and watch how the quality of your life changes for the better. If you feel you need additional help, Coaching is there for you. I love you and believe in you.
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